Search This Blog

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Nice people are killing churches: Tell them to stop.

Posted by Todd Rhoades in Leadership on Feb 18th, 2013

Paul Alexander explains why the ‘nice guys’ are killing churches:

1. Nice people have a tendency to hire people that they like rather than people who are going to advance the mission of the church. In other words it’s okay to lose as long as you’re losing with friends.

2. Nice people avoid conflict and by so doing don’t mine the best ideas out of their teams.

3. Nice people keep people on their teams well after the work has surpassed their capacity. This not only slows the mission but it exposes the weaknesses of and hurts the very person they’re trying to protect.

4. Nice people don’t confront the brutal facts and as a result “hallway conversations” take place and a lack of unity begins to undermine the mission.

5. Nice people sacrifice the flock for the sake of one sheep. This happens every time you let that one person sing who has no business singing (if you’ve been around church-world for any length of time you know exactly what I’m talking about).

Our churches are filled with ‘nice guys’.  And I agree, nice guys can kill churches.  We need to treat each other with grace and love. But we also need to treat each other with truth. Truth, covered in grace and love.  Many times, nice guys just choose the grace and love parts. And the church dies… a slow and agonizing death.

From here

No comments:

Post a Comment