Posted by Todd Rhoades in Leadership on
Paul Alexander explains why the ‘nice guys’ are killing
churches:
1. Nice people
have a tendency to hire people that they like rather than people who are going
to advance the mission of the church. In other words it’s okay to lose as long
as you’re losing with friends.
2. Nice people
avoid conflict and by so doing don’t mine the best ideas out of their teams.
3. Nice people
keep people on their teams well after the work has surpassed their capacity.
This not only slows the mission but it exposes the weaknesses of and hurts the
very person they’re trying to protect.
4. Nice people
don’t confront the brutal facts and as a result “hallway conversations” take
place and a lack of unity begins to undermine the mission.
5. Nice people
sacrifice the flock for the sake of one sheep. This happens every time you let
that one person sing who has no business singing (if you’ve been around
church-world for any length of time you know exactly what I’m talking about).
Our churches are filled with ‘nice guys’. And I agree,
nice guys can kill churches. We need to treat each other with grace and love. But we also
need to treat each other with truth. Truth, covered in grace and love. Many times, nice guys just choose the grace
and love parts. And the church dies… a slow and agonizing death.
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